About me, Julia G., the author of the eBook

Who am I? 

I am a German woman, being Single for more than 10 years and who has been traveling the world solo for 5 years. 

Meeting many men around the globe made me realize that specific behavior in bed is common regardless of their origin.  

There are some benefits of becoming older as a woman.

1) You learn a lot about your body and you become more self confident. When I was younger I wanted to look perfect for men and was shaving every single hair on my body. I felt uncomfortable if the light was switched on and I didn't want to show any fat rolls on my body.

Around the age of 30, I realized that men don't really mind and even the opposite, many men like to have something to touch and don't prefer the skinny girls, that we girls all desire to be, because society is teaching it to us. Knowing this, it makes Sex life much easier and more enjoyable. 

2) As a young woman it is very important to please the man. We want him to think that our Sex was very good, which is leading to the fact that we do things that we don't really want to do. Just to make him happy. 

For example: While having Sex, many guys are turning the woman around to take her doggy style - without asking. When I was younger, I always let it happen, even in situations in which I didn't feel comfortable doing it. I did it, because I didn't want the guy to think that I am boring or stuffy. 

Now I am self confident enough to say it if I don't like to do it. And the scary thing is, that some guys don't accept a “no” and try it again. They are more interested in their needs, knowing that I will not enjoy it because I will only do it for him. That behavior is very bad and it took me a long time to realize it.

So it actually is still happening that I am realizing the next day that I did things that I didn't really want to do and the guy should have realized it.

3) The feeling about giving back. In my first 10 years of having Sex, I was always focused on making him happy. When he was doing something nice to me I always felt the need to give it back. And it was normal that the guy was finishing but I did not. Over the years I changed my attitude about it a lot, because this is about both of us and not only to make men happy.                                  Unfortunately only men need to have an orgasm for reproduction. But it doesn't mean that we should have less pleasure.                                                              Now I don't have any problem when I am having multiple orgasms and the guy has to wait or even will not finish. In so many cases only the guy is finishing, why shouldn't we normalize the other way around too? 

With this little book I am hoping to reach many guys to make them aware about the big difference about being a woman. Because I am sure that most of the men want to make the woman happy, but don't even realize about the real feelings of her.